8.8.18

The past four days were spent alternating between lying in bed to watching kitty videos to reading books to drinking tea to reading blogs to taking afternoon naps to listening to music (and the list goes on). I haven’t accomplished anything I’m supposed to. I’m just taking my time, making the most out of my 4 days vacation before heading on to my fulltime job starting tomorrow. I rarely go out of my room except on instances where I’d have to use the washroom or get food from the kitchen. My housemates may be wondering what I’ve been doing, spending the whole day in my room. They may be weirded out by my unusual homebuddiness. I don’t care. I just want to take advantage of these four glorious days spending some me-time, not doing anything productive.

Let me tell you though that I have spent most of my time daydreaming about the date 8.8.18.

Lately, my fiancé and I have been having a lot of discussions, planning our future. Everytime he brings up the topic, I automatically get cold feet because of my uncertain status in this country. At this point, I don’t want to make any definite plans of the future yet since it will be a long and tedious process till achieving that permanent residency status. So I easily get irritated when he opens these topics as he is very excited to start his life here as well. Then we end up fighting. We have different views in life — him being optimistic and idealistic, me being realistic. It’s not easy being away from each other, believe me, and most especially going to bed still mad at one another. So we really try to come up with solutions to resolve our issues.
So I thought… With all these uncertainties, why can’t we make one realistic plan for our relationship? One that won’t be affected by any unsuccessful visa status changes. The one thing that we both could make happen despite the odds?

So we set the date.

8.8.18.

And while we are apart, we will save up until 2017 and whatever savings we come up with at that time, we will plan the wedding from there. We don’t care whether it will be too simple or most people in our lives will end up not being invited (because of our tight budget, we may have to really discern who to invite and who not to because both of us hail from huuuge families). We may have to settle for a local honeymoon destination in contrast to what has been previously discussed spending it at Japan or China. We don’t care. The most important thing is we start our marriage life as soon as possible. We told out loved ones and they are all excited as well!

Just to backtrack, my fiancé and I have been engaged since May 2014 and have made plans of getting a civil marriage but due to circumstances with my ongoing abroad application, it wasn’t easy to request another set of documents and update my already submitted applications. So we had to wait.

As I have previously said, it is never easy to be apart from each other. We were never sure when we will see each other again due to my uncertain status here. Times and circumstances might change us a lot. But what I admire about our relationship is nobody shows a single ounce of clue of giving up or letting go when times get tough. We are both committed to make this relationship work. That’s the most important thing, I guess.